Dedicate all actions. (then) Slowly, the outside disappears and the inner takes over. Whatever happens – good or bad – that it is the Lord who does! And whatever you enjoy – think that it is the Lord who is enjoying. Gradually one will be able to free oneself from the worldly traps and go within. But usually what happens is when you say we have surrendered to the Lord, everything is done by him – usually it is only the bad things that we say “Why has God done this to us?” Anything that is good we like to take credit for (ourself).